Best friends means you get what you deserve.
Tonight I thought I’d post on the amazing connection between Travis and his close friends. It’s impacted me how they have stayed by his side through everything. I know a large group went up the night before Travis had his trach put in and that’s awesome, but there have only been a few that have returned, and a few out of that that have returned on multiple occasions. I can only speak for those people here.
Jesse and I have become friends throughout this process. We always ran around in the same group but never talked and hung out. We started talking over this, and I love seeing travis’s reaction when I talk about Jesse visiting. His turns his head and lifts his arms up. I’ve heard some funny stories about Travis from Jesse as well. I brought up the -2 story today where Travis somehow got a negative 2 on a test. When I said ‘negative 2’ Travis started to smile and gurgled letting me know that he knew exactly where that story was going. He loves Jesse and Jesse loves him back. Jesse said it better than anyone could ‘I wish I could trade places with him every day’. Jesse helped me realize that Travis has good days, but he also has bad days and that it’s ok to have a bad day every once in awhile. Jesse is a wonderful friend to Travis and I love seeing them connect during their visits.
Kerry is another person I just recently became acquainted with. Once again, we ran around in the same group. I’m only telling you this because we talked about it today. I used to think Kerry Cooper wasnt the best person around. I’d heard bad things about him and he wasn’t the type of person I would have associated myself with; that all has changed in the past 2 weeks. Kerry is an amazing friend with a big heart. He’s so loving with Travis. I got to see him help work with travis’s respiratory therapist today. He was gentle and kept Travis calm. He was there for him and held his hand. He was talking with rose today about putting out a donation bucket for Travis at his work. He not only cares for travis but shows so much love and concern for Rose. Kerry is not the person I had heard about. He was grateful for the time that friends spend with Travis and expresses so much gratitude to everyone who comes in contact with Travis. He’s a spiritual person with a heart that doesn’t fit inside of his body. I’m so glad to have had the chance to get to know him and see him interact with Travis.
Brooke and I became friends just a couple months before I reconnected with Travis. She can always put a smile on his face and get his boy hormones going. Haha. Brooke always has something funny to say to get him going. She even brought Chad along who has become interested in Travis and his recovery process. She always feels guilt if she misses even one day with Travis. Work has been busy lately but is always texting me or calling rose for status updates on Travis. She’s so caring and is willing to give anything to help. I’m happy to get to know the caring side of Brooke. Shes the reason I’ve come back into travis’s life and I can’t thank her enough for that. He’s brought so much into my life and I have her to blame. :)
Autumn and I ran around in this same group (are you seeing a pattern emerge?) We, however, talked a bit at least. She and Travis are music buddies. I haven’t had the chance to see her interact with Travis as much but he’s always so playful when she’s around. He sticks out his tongue and smiles. She puts him in such a good mood. He relaxes around her and jokes around. It’s sweet seeing them play together when she visits. She’s such sweet person and I’m glad he has her in his life.
Now, Kenny is my friend. I explained how Kenny met Travis and how he’s remained interested in Travis now. I get daily messages from Kenny asking how Travis is doing or wanting to see Travis. I’m going to be gone for a few days on vacation and he’s still planning on visiting. Get this, he never knew the Travis before the accident and still shows so much love for him.
What an amazing draw Travis has. He has touched so many lives of people he hasn’t even met. Look at these people who can’t stay away and shouldn’t stay away. Travis needs us now more than ever. The doctor was blown away by the recovery in the ICU and asked Rose if we would all still be there for him because it’s truly helping him. I, along with these amazing people I’ve talked about, have made a pact to stay in his life, even it’s just once a week for 30 minutes. Wouldn’t you want that?
Once again, I encourage you to please go see him. Not only will you change him, you’ll find yourself changing. Travis puts life into perspective. He makes you think, he answers life’s questions that you never thought you could find. He has touched my heart, and I’m not the same person I was 3 weeks ago. I’m going to miss him these next few days. I expect updates from everyone!! Get him to move for you. Have him stretch his legs, arms, and fingers for you. Get him to smile. He will do it for you. I swear that sweet smile will melt your heart every time you see it.
I’ll say it one last time, Travis deserves better. Be there for him.